40 Lessons from my nearly 40 years


I thought it might be neat to sit down and write out a list of things I’ve learned over the years. Yes, these can all be considered altruistic, but the more I think about them, the more wisdom I find. I may come back and expand on a few of these in future posts, but here they are in no particular order.

  1. Don’t let politics ruin relationships, friendships, or family ties.
  2. Family is more than blood- others are welcome, too.
  3. Don’t compare your life to anyone else’s.
  4. Faith is personal so don’t force it on others.
  5. Money doesn’t buy happiness, but contentment does.
  6. Don’t spend too much time in the past or the future. Be HERE, now.
  7. Don’t get sucked into the idea of creating perfect memories, it always backfires.
  8. Find something to laugh at each day because laughter really is the best medicine.
  9. Not everyone who tells you they love you means it.
  10. It’s okay to love and care for those who don’t feel the same way toward you.
  11. Sometimes it’s best for everyone to just let them go their own way.
  12. Just because you let someone go doesn’t mean you haven’t forgiven them.
  13. There’s a difference between friends and acquaintances so don’t pretend there isn’t.
  14. Sometimes the best response is no response at all- let it be.
  15. Even your family and closest friends will fail you; we’re all human.
  16. Nothing in this world is actually perfect, but it’s close enough.
  17. Close enough is not a replacement for effort.
  18. It’s okay to ask for help, but be prepared to accept the help that is given.
  19. Fools don’t need your help to look foolish; they can do it by themselves.
  20. Go out of your way to be kind- ALWAYS!
  21. Being polite is not the same as being kind.
  22. If you don’t, who will?
  23. People are generally good, don’t assume otherwise.
  24. Don’t judge a book by its cover; contents reveal the truth.
    1. Actions speak louder than words and reveal more than appearances.
  25. Make time for nothing. You need downtime and doing nothing helps.
  26. Make time for everyone you truly care about even when it’s not convenient.
  27. If everything could be planned in advance, there would be no accidents, crises, wars, or unforeseen circumstances.
  28. A lack of planning on your part doesn’t constitute an emergency on mine, but I will do my best.
  29. You can’t know happiness without knowing sadness. Don’t ignore your feelings or those of others.
  30. Hoping for the best while planning for the worst is not cynicism, it’s having experience.
  31. Sarcasm and quick wit are healthy, but know when not to use them.
  32. Life is what happens when you’re busy making other plans. / Change happens so go with it.
  33. Don’t make promises you don’t intend to keep. Do what you say you’re going to do.
  34. Not everything is a competition.
  35. There are no absolutes in this world- not everything is black and white.
  36. Evil exists, but not everywhere. Quit looking for it because you don’t need it.
  37. People have different opinions and beliefs than you, get over it.
  38. If someone annoys you, ask yourself if it’s worth getting upset over or if it will be important in 5 years.
  39. Cleanliness may be next to Godliness, but we need some dirt so our immune systems don’t get lazy.
  40. It’s okay to fail.